“How is this idea about unconditional love/acceptance manifested in our churches? The examples are numerous. For one, there is a growing trend especially in the Seventh- day Adventist church for members to be instructed not to say anything to newly baptized members, young people, or others about their dress, worship, adornment etc. The fear is that if we focus too much on such issues, we will ‘run’ these members out of the church. We are encouraged, instead, to accept and love them unconditionally because it is believed they will eventually make the needed changes in their lifestyles. And if they don't change, we are reminded that God is the ‘ultimate judge.’…

What is the Truth About Unconditional Love

Is this philosophy of unconditional love and acceptance from God and others congruent with God's word? It is clear that God does not expect us to fulfill any conditions before He bestows His love upon us. Remember, the subtle deception of these humanistic concepts for Christians is that they are mixed with some truth and a lot of error. Even though God may initially bestow His love without asking anything from us, does it stop there? Consider the words of Jesus:

‘He that hath my commandments and keep at them, he it is that loves me and he that loves me shall be loved of my father and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him’ (John 14:21)

In other words, we show our love to God by following His commandments. Also interesting in this verse is the thought that the exhibition of our love to Him (by keeping his commandments) is somehow connected to the love that He displays towards us.

Again, not that his love is contingent upon our obeying Him, but Jesus tells us there is some relationship between the two. The danger in using the humanistic concept of ‘unconditionality’ to describe God's love is that it disconnects us from His requirements, such as the keeping of His commandments.”
(Magna Parks, Christians Beware, The Dangers of Secular Psychology 28, 29)